How can I become a better leader for my Bible study group? How can I help a father with his children in a counseling session? And how can I do a better job of relating to my own family members? How do I know who will make the best leader in my country?
Friedman had lots to say about the qualities and habits of effective leaders. His big emphasis seemed that leaders are to bring a strong sense of self and non-reactivity into their group. The leader’s “presence” involves confidence, poise, calmness, and focus. Much of the same stuff that is needed when working with dogs, horses, or small children! Friedman believed that wherever the head goes, the body follows. It sounds kind of like Jesus’ approach while He was on the earth.
Furthermore, some “red flags” when observing leaders are for those who: 1) interfere in the relationships of others, 2) constantly try to force others’ to one’s point of view, and 3) are not able to relate to people with whom they disagree. Friedman also added that good leaders work on their own maturity as the best chance of changing others. He advocated adapting to strength rather than weaknesses in the members around them. These leaders don’t allow whiny, dependent people to call the shots. He recommended that leaders remain calm by becoming curious and asking lots of questions, rather than giving advice. He noted that when leaders attempt to focus on responsibility by challenging members’ growth and maturity, they will be met with resistance and sabotage. You can count on that.
If you are curious about more of Friedman’s ideas, you can find his books for sale on the Internet. The Apostle Peter gave some ideas about leadership for church elders: “Be shepherds of God’s flock that is under your care, serving as overseers — not because you must, but because you are willing, as God wants you to be; not greedy for money, but eager to serve; not lording it over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock” (I Peter 5:2,3 NIV).
Questions for personal journaling and group discussion:
1. Who are your “flocks” right now?
2. How might you be able to adapt to the strengths in your group rather than weaknesses?
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Karen Spruill writes from Orlando, Florida.© 2002 - 2023, AnswersForMe.org. All rights reserved. Click here for content usage information.