Foot-in-Mouth Disease

Yesterday my husband experienced another lapse in memory and left his cell phone at home. This was not the first time a phone, or another of his workday possessions, had missed their ride. So I was fuming about being inconvenienced to take the phone to his place of work. Weeks ago, I had even posted an eye-level list on the door that leads to the garage—so he wouldn’t forget the essential things.

I am aware that I should be thankful that he has a memory. Several years ago, he suffered an accident and concussion. But this type of forgetfulness dates back more than 30 years. Nothing new. Just frustrating for both of us. And sometimes I cannot accommodate.

So I delivered the phone and went on my way to the next destination. I tried telling myself, “This isn’t a big deal or the end of the world—good thing we live close to his work.” Yet, I didn’t want to let go of this lapse and the results on my emotional thermometer.

The Human Condition

After helping a friend for several hours, I noticed a message on my phone. One of my clients reminded me that we were supposed to meet that evening. The person needed more directions. Only then I remembered that I had double-booked that time slot. I had forgotten the previous conversation with the first client. I was embarrassed as I called to apologize. And then it hit me with a humbling two-by-four: I am also forgetful and inconvenience others—a victim of the human condition and my lack of organization.

We can problem-solve all day about how to increase memory. Yet, the real problem is with my anger and attitude. Occasionally, I get knocked down a few notches to remain useful to my God. We all need grace and forgiveness. And a memory.

“Therefore as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity” (Colossians 3:12-14, NIV).

Questions for personal journaling or group discussion:

1. In the above verses, which of the attributes is a strength of yours? Which one would you like to submit to God for more ability?

2. Of all your human relationships, which one is the easiest for you to become impatient or angry? How might you ease the stress?

If you liked this, you might also enjoy In Search of Forgiveness | What Is Forgiveness? What It Does and Does Not Mean.

Karen Spruill writes from Florida

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